THE DISRUPTION PHASE: When life falls apart

Last week, I launched my YouTube channel and introduced The Destiny Map — my 5-phase framework that maps out the transformational journeys we all move through in life… again and again.

Over the next few weeks, I’ll be diving deeper into each phase.

And today, I’m starting with one of the hardest and most soul-shaking of all:

The Disruption Phase.

This is when life suddenly changes.
When the rug gets pulled out from under you.
When life as you knew it just shatters… or something inside you does.

It might be a loss.
A breakup.
A diagnosis.
A reckoning.
Or that part of you that knows deep down… something has to change — and if you let it, everything will shift.

Disruption brings you to the what now?
The soul-quake.
Where everything that once made sense… no longer does.
And you’re left standing in the rubble.

It can feel like everything is falling apart.
Because sometimes… it is.

This is a phase I’ve lived through many times.
And it hasn’t been easy.

Disruption can break you open in ways you never asked for.
But in that breaking, you might meet parts of yourself you didn’t know were there.

Parts that stretch you. Deepen you.
And eventually, can bring new clarity or meaning to your life.

And I want to be really clear...
This phase isn’t about finding a silver lining.
It’s not about rushing to make meaning from pain.

But in time, and only in time, Disruption can become the beginning of something new.
Not because you wanted it or asked for it.
But because life initiated (perhaps even forced) you to begin again.

🎥 This Week’s Video

This week’s YouTube video walks you through the Disruption Phase in depth:

✨ What it really feels like
✨ What it might be asking of you
✨ Why trying to “fix it” too fast might be keeping you stuck
✨ Three tools to help you move through it… gently and honestly

So, if you’re in the thick of loss…
Coming off a big change…
Or wrestling with something you can’t quite name…

I hope this video offers a little space to breathe, feel, and just be where you are!

Next week, I’ll be sharing more about the Reflection Phase ….the season that invites you to pause, reassess, and reconnect with what matters.

For now, if you're in the Disruption —
Be gentle.
Be honest.
And know: this isn’t about becoming someone new.
It’s about honoring who you’re becoming… because of what you’ve lived through.

Want to Explore Where You Are?

Or curious about what phase you might be in …you can take The Destiny Map Quiz here and if you haven’t seen it yet, you can also watch the Intro Video that walks through all five phases.