THE GRIEF NO ONE SEES

I was sitting at a restaurant the other night, having a glass of wine and doing a little work... when a Van Morrison song came on. My stomach dropped.

Instantly, I'm back in my brother’s room.
The two of us sitting on the floor, talking about music. About life. Van Morrison was one for him.

And now, here I am, in disbelief. That he is not here.
How is this still real?

Moments like that happen all the time now.

Too many to name.
It’s just part of life now.
No one sees it.
But it’s there. Everywhere you turn at times. 

Your grief and you.

And when the holidays come, everything gets louder.

The Silent Storm No One Talks About

People warn you about the empty chair and the missing stocking.
But they do not warn you about the grief that hits out of nowhere.

The memory that blindsides you in the middle of a store.
The moment that stops you while you are just trying to get through your day.
The trigger that punches you in the chest when no one is watching.

These moments can show up any time of year, but during the holidays make it harder.
Holiday music, movies, traditions, pressure to feel joy… it all gets amplified.

The Moments That Blindside You

It’s the holiday song that forces you out of the store.

The gift you don’t get to buy...or maybe you still do, but have to put it in the closet.... 

The card you find at the bottom of a drawer with their handwriting still on it and it takes your breath away.

The RSVP you send for one instead of two...if you even go...

The family photo card without them... and you just stare at it and cry.

The ornament they made you...the one you can’t even bring yourself to hang.

.....and so many more

It can come anytime. Anywhere.
No warning. No notice. And only you know.

And that is what I talk about in this week’s video:

The Silent Storm of Holiday Grief

The moments that blindside you that no one sees… and what is really happening inside your body when it hits so hard.

🎥 Watch the video here: “The Grief No One Sees”

This week, I share:

✨ The hidden grief triggers that surface this time of year
✨ Why your nervous system is in overdrive
✨ Three grounding tools to support you

If you are in it right now… or supporting someone who is… I hope this helps make the invisible a little more seen and gives your heart room to breathe.

Need a little more personalized support this season?

Here are a few ways you can get support if you need it:

🖤 1:1 Support
If you are moving through grief, loss, or a major life transition and want a space to feel what you feel and rebuild at your own pace, you can schedule a free connection call here:

🖤 Weekly Support on YouTube
I am sharing new videos throughout the holiday season with tools, insights, and grounding support.
and will be continuing my Grief and the Holidays series through the rest of the month on my YouTube channel.

If the holidays feel heavier than expected this year, you're not imagining it. The silent storm is real. And you don't have to move through it alone.